lovers & lusters

Are you a lover or a luster? This seems to be something that we mold our whole selves around. Both of these different concepts have their pros and their cons. We start to develop the type of person we are in our personal lives in our teens and twenty-somethings. But some of us may change throughout the years, and some of us may stay the same from day dot to our fifty-somethings or longer. Everyone has different views as to what success means to them in their personal life. Some believe in that silly little thing called love, and they are happy to be in a monogamous, happy, settled relationship all the time.  Some, on the other hand, lust through their whole lives, trying to find the next prettiest girl or guy to sleep with and then they move on to the next. Everyone has their idea of success in love and it could be any of the above, or it could look completely different to you.

Lovers of the world, we stand united. We need this silly little thing called love. But why? And at what cost and length would we go to have it? Well, I guess that one is up to you. But for you lovers of the world, nothing beats the feeling of being able to come home to your one and only and spend the evening cooking dinner together, talking about your day and then settling into bed to watch your favourite tv show on netflix while you unwind with your favourite herbal tea. People quite often think that with love, there will be many sacrifices. But really, if they were sacrifices, then how could we possibly be in love? To be in love, shouldn’t we look at all of those things to be advantages? Because without that other person we wouldn’t even be doing some of these things in the first place. Although it may mean that you see your girlfriends less often on a Saturday night for cocktails, you get the comfort of knowing that you always have someone there to have your back, to be there, when nobody else is. I will leave you with this. If love is what we want, then why do the negative things that might happen hold us back so much from exploring all of the positive things that could happen?

The lusters of the world. You all know how to have a good time don’t you? You all hate the idea of love, I mean, why have just one, when you can have a new one every single night? Right? Ohhhh lusters, where would we be without you. You know how to get the gals (or the guys) feeling up when they are down. You know how to show everyone a good time. You’re the one that the lovers go to when they have just finished one of their long-term love story relationships or their short-term “they are the one, I just know it” relationships. The lovers rely on you for a good night out on the cocktails, and ending with a night-cap of, well, you know what. You explore the world with however many men or women you want (or need) on the side. And you know what, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. In the wise words of Samantha Jones “I’m done with great love, I’m back to great lovers”. We need you lusters, and never forget it. Have you been a luster before? If so, why are you one or why are you not one anymore?

Whether it be that you are a lover or a luster, or both even, your role in the society of love is important to anyone and everyone that comes into your life. You could give someone a new experience because of your fantastic outgoing luster personality or you could change someone and they could find the absolute love of their life. It does not matter to anyone else what you feel success is for you in your love life, so long as you are happy, why should it matter? One last thing that I will leave you to think about. Does the route that we take in our personal life change the outlook that we have for love, or do we all have the same outlook but just different interpretations?

Much love,
Caity x